One year from our wedding

Not exactly an Ooh La La La but not at all an Oopz, Ooh, No La La la at all sums up my first year of wedding. Few lessons for all those mallu bachelors out there who may or may not want to tie the knot when they want to.

#1) Select a {NICE} father in law who is willing to share a "small" with you ;). You don't have to take the approval of your wife each time you want to have a small. I was very clear on this as I wrote here ;P. Very essential for a successful married life for a {NICE} mallu Xian son in law :P.

#2)When your family decides to give an advertisement in any newspaper please make sure that you are in the loop. Else you will get calls from long lost girl friends who never talked to you in life before asking whether you were the guy in the ad mentioned :P with a proposal for a relative from their family.

#3)Be prepared to discuss possibilities like Losing the ring , The ring not fitting, Food poisoning from the catering, The bride not showing up, The groom not showing up, Rips and stains in the bridal dress, The bride gaining too much weight and the gown not fitting and so on with the elders of your family who would have never considered you an equal before. This is a dream coming true for a Mallu MBA with endless scenarios and symptoms while analysing an MBA case in a class.

#4)Nothing will go according to the plan in first year. After fixing the engagement my boss quit the next day and some one who was a half crack took over as the new boss, then when we were honeymooning in a phoren land Lehman brothers collapsed and all the hell broke lose, people were fired LRC and my wife could not get a job. I was planning to shift to Bangalore with three offers in hand and all offers were taken back on the same day. Be ready for all these bad things and nice things like communists losing power. You need to face all these with the added responsibility after wedding and be ready for the worst.

#5)You need to define the division of labour really clearly after wedding and define a policy to maintain family peace. You need to get clear understanding with your wife that you will define the stand on India- Pakistan policy of your house while she will do the rest. This will help in averting calamities, disasters and tsunamis.

#6) Mumbai was Monster muse, part witch, part clown, always absurd, often charming - my rogue ballad; It was Mumbai meri jaan. Mumbai is generally and basically very bad for Mallu Xian couples.

#7)When making a choice between two options, only consider what's going to happen in the future, not which investments you've made in the past. The past investments are over, lost, gone forever. They are irrelevant to the future. Do a read up on Sunk Cost before marriage to avoid any conflicts around decision making - I think married men who read this post will agree with me.

#8)No moment is as precious as holding your first born for the first time. Ten fingers, Ten toes. She's laughter and teardrops. So small and brand new & amazingly angelic. A new baby is like the beginning of all things-wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities :P

Moi cents from first year. Have got few more cents on matrimony search which I didn't get time to update after wedding.

All the Best Bachelors with your search !!!!!!!!!!!

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This is a bonus tip. Once in a while appreciate your better half so that both of you can live a peaceful marriage in bliss ;). If you are a peace loving guy like me I think you will rate this post :P.

What is in a "Gandhi" name?

Juliet:

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."
Romeo and Juliet (II, ii, 1-2)


Juliet told Romeo that name is an artificial and meaningless convention according to Shakespeare.

It is not so.

The new Bandra- Worli Sea link in named after Rajiv Gandhi
The famous Connaught Place in Delhi was renamed as Rajiv Chowk.
The stadium in Kochi (May be the only international stadium in the world) is named as Jawaharlal Nehru "International" Stadium.

Every district in this country has one thing or the other thing named after someone from the "Gandhi" family.

Giving a "Gandhi" name to each and every thing in this country- Does it imply that no other families did anything during the freedom struggle or are not doing anything now for this country?

മലയാളസിനിമയുടെ സ്വന്തം ലോഹിക്ക് ആദരാഞ്ജലികള്‍

For all those who loved and still love Malayalam Cinema, Lohi's death is the lose of one of the finest scripwriters/directors Malayalam Cinema has ever seen.

One of those writers who created cinemas with the soul for Malayalam movie lovers.

Cinemas with characters who could find a place in the mind of an average Malayalam film lover.

I knew him only through his characters.

His characters were from middle class with dreams of a common man (Mammootty in Amaram, Thilakan in Kireedom).

Characters who got confused in the roads of life and never could understand where life is taking them (Kireedom, Chenkol, Sallapam, Thoovalkottaram, Veendum Chila Veetukaryangal, Amaram, Thaniyavarthanam)

Somehow most of us who love Malayalam Cinema could relate to his characters because they were like so many others whom we had met at differenet points of life.

No wonder most of these characters are still etched in the minds of an average Malayalam Cinema lover like you and me.




മലയാളസിനിമയുടെ സ്വന്തം ലോഹിക്ക് ആദരാഞ്ജലികള്‍

Kamala Das -മലയാളത്തിന്റെ നീര്‍മാതളത്തിന് എന്റെ ആദരാഞ്ജലികള്‍

Kamala Das -

I always admired this woman.

I know her only through her Books - English and Malayalam - from "Ente Katha" to "Neermathalam Poothakalam" which I used to satisfy my reading appetite in school days.

The only woman who could sit in Calcutta (now Kolkata) and write "Wild feet stirring up the dust in my home in Malabar and I so far away"

The only woman author who had the courage to write about sex in Malayalam.The irony being that much of her writing about sex is about how disappointing she found it eventhough most of her works were sensuous and mildly erotic.

The only woman who had the courage to describe making love with her husband as ‘a marital chore’ she endured every night from the age of 15.

The only woman who encouraged her husband to take another lover: someone unlike her, someone who was good in bed and was proud about the same in her writings.

The only woman writer in Malayalam who was unpretentious and genuine and was a true feminist who thought feminism was about breaking the shackles of women in the society and was not about imitating men.

The only woman who had the courage to write poetry with out inhibitions and take on a society and intelligensia in Kerala which had very powerful inhibitions.

She inspired me simply because she chose to fight against abuse from suffocation in her own way than by fighting those abuses and shackles by violating the same.

Sad to know that she too has passed away..

മലയാളത്തിന്റെ നീര്‍മാതളത്തിന് എന്റെ ആദരാഞ്ജലികള്‍